How do I handle my boyfriend?

Today I received a call from a very nice woman that wanted advise on how to handle her boyfriend. Just today, she moved all her belongings out of his place, left the key in his mailbox and did not leave him a note. Her boyfriend is a meth addict but is in complete denial about his use. He is also very abusive.

Her question was, should she call him to let him know that she is gone.

That is a tough one for anyone to advise on. Only she has all the information about the complete situation and only she can judge what would be best. I could not advise, but I could give her my opinion on what I would do.

My opinion is that being upfront is always best. Letting the person know why you are gone could prompt them to get help. Deep in side, an addict knows that he/she is doing wrong and hurting themselves or others. Letting them know that you care about them but won’t put up with the situation cannot hurt and might help.

In the end, my advise was for her to follow her heart and do what she perceives to be best because only she could know the answer.

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